As a result, when INFPs see the reality too far from what they idealized, it discourages and paralyzes them. However, some INFPs take idealism too far that they confuse real life with imagination. INFPs are idealists and it’s a cool name to tag along with our personality. We daydream, replay scenarios, and monologue a lot. But since then, people find it hard to reach me out and I’ve had a sense of freedom.

It was a hot afternoon when I said my first “no” to my classmates. I endured it, but soon I saw the circumstances as abusive to my physical and mental health.įor the first time in years, I asked myself “Why does it all have to be me?” I was burnt out and I started seeing people who put me in that position with resentment. However, as I try to do my best to accommodate everyone, these people start passing all the responsibilities onto me. I remember being the “yes-man” when I was younger. They have their own ways and no pep talk will stop them from doing what they want. Nonconformity heightens to the point they’re turning rebellious or irrational. If no one meets their standards or satisfies their values, they will leave. INFPs hate being abused so they may abandon anyone who does so. They take requests to avoid offending anyone.īut when INFPs start embracing love for themselves, they start distancing themselves until people can no longer tell them what to do. In comparison, the optimistic INFPs never turn down requests. They will find themselves asking, “What’s in it for me?” If an act doesn’t make them feel good, INFPs think twice about helping others. Selfish INFPs would not help others at the expense of themselves. One dark side of an INFP is they think about themselves most of the time. We want everything filtered out through our own standards and it’s the subtle start of INFP’s massive selfishness. “Selfish? Who? Me?” Of course, I’m denying it! Everyone sees me as the kind and gentle one in the class.īut as much as we want to deny it, INFP’s primary cognitive function is Introverted Feeling (Fi) which means we have strong attachments to our morals and own ideals. It’s something I didn’t want to admit before. The dark sides of every INFP can be unique to their experiences and discoveries of the world.īut if an INFP turns to her dark side, it’s quite a worrying story. We have INFP-As and INFP-Ts who respond differently to situations like success and challenges. Important disclaimer:I’m not generalizing every INFP. It becomes more dangerous when such dark, yet passionate INFPs advocate wrong idealism to people. Passionately driven INFPs can create an army that will follow their vision.

When INFPs realize too much darkness in this world, they sometimes surrender to its ideals. It’s a satisfying emotion and I think I can take over the world.īut when the INFP dark side emerges, the indifference I feel towards the world cages my emotions until I don’t feel a thing, except for guilt – guilt that I’m not sharing the same sorrow with others despite the world breaking down.

My enthusiasm gives me hope to reach my dreams. I feel either heightened optimism or grueling indifference.

When My Dark Side as an INFP EmergesĪs I grow older, I tend to experience a rollercoaster of emotions. They become insensitive and indifferent about other people’s feelings. When pushed into a rut, destructive INFPs revenge with severity and without any remorse. However, as we talk about human nature, we must realize that everyone has the capability to be destructive – even the gentle INFPs.Ĭan INFPs be evil? What does the dark side of INFPs look like? Unfortunately, INFP’s dark side starts within their critical beliefs which then amplifies to the real world. They are the most compassionate, empathetic, and peace-revering type among the 16 Myers-Briggs personalities.

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